Not all LGBTQA2S+ professionals are equally “safe” for trans kids

PSA worth repeating…
Not all trans and LGBTQA2S+ can hold a safe space for trans people. In fact, often their personal anger gets triggered.

When someone wants to talk about the difficulty they are having at work, having to listen to arguments about discrimination, this is not “safe place.” Sure, first couple of times are great because it normalizes it. But they also need a place to be heard for their own experiences not as a political case study and be supported.

So please stop making recommendations simply based on their label.

LGBTQA2S+ people can be anything cis straight people can. They can be doctors, lawyers, politicians, engineers, carpenters, artists, traditional, bigoted, transphobic, or binary.


What transgender is and what it isn’t.

PSA worth repeating…
Disagreeing with “traditional” gender roles/clothing is not the same as being transgender.

Trans people could be anything others can. Trans people can be doctors, lawyers, gay, straight, enlightened, educated, athletic, kind, friend, traditional, or binary.

For the same reason, cis people are allowed to be doctors, lawyers, advocates, non-traditional, or non-binary.

Most importantly, we are not people you get to give permission to be who we are. Did you see how jarring that word “allowed” was?

Transphobic case conceptualization you too have written

You asked. I answer.

Please stop the overuse of “assigned male/female at birth.” It’s rude.

You started out wanting to avoid writing male/female as assumed, which is good, but you stopped and got comfortable too soon.

When it comes to noting the sex or gender in case conceptualizations, I recommend going to why you’re listing it at all.

please consider “socialized as male/female” instead of “assigned male/female at birth” unless you’re actually talking about the experience at birth.

If you’re talking about dysphoria with the gender marker on the birth certificate, please say gender marker.

If you’re talking about genitalia, please consider saying “experiences dysphoria with genitalia/penis/vagina.”

If it is about being read as female while identifying as nonbinary, say that exactly as such.

If the client asks their gender to be referred to and by what was assigned at birth, do this.

If this person is a female who was assigned male at birth, you could just write female and note this person’s transition exactly in ways that is relevant to your case. If she says she is a “transwoman” rather than “woman,” you can likely use that word too by following her lead.

This could be tricky. One, there is a practice of listing everything in case conceptualizations as though “just because.” Two, listing everything could help the supervisors or peers notice what the practitioner has missed.

I do note here though that someone being white isn’t what matters here. If I read a case conceptualization listing someone as white male in mid 20’s, I would still ask if this person had reported experience of racism or racialization. It not about the fact but the experience of it. There are few occasions where one should ever say “assigned male/female at birth” and be as justified as you think.

Now, this is just me as a person. But I am writing this because I want to answer all the questions you “always wanted to ask a trans person.” What they don’t tell you is that they ask these questions then completely ignore the answers because they don’t fit their opinion. It is up to you to use what I provided you to set yourself apart.

Actually, only a couple of people asked. The rest just assumed they already knew. Do you know how jolting it is to hear you say “a friend of mine who was assigned female at birth”!? Why can’t you ask this person what gender they are and refer to them properly.

Is Canada actually liberal?: Gender on an ID

“Wow, it must have been so hard to grow up non-binary in a country like Japan,” a sentiment I hear from nearly everyone.

When I ask, the answer tends to be “because Japan is so traditional.” Even when I remind them of the cars, electronics, innovation, the Japanese game shows, and the diversity of tporn that come out of Japan, their opinion seems to remain unshaken.

Homosexuality was only illegal in Japan for a short lapse.

No one had ever had any issues with me identifying as whatever gender.

Pretty much the only response I got to me dating whoever I wanted was “whatever makes you happy.”

My ID never had any gender markers. You dont gave to experience what the system put you through to file for the gender marker change.

Sure, there are some parts that were hard. I seriously considered forfeiting the opportunity to go to the best school in the region because of their Sailor Moon uniform (the second-best school had no uniform). But then I was never labelled (literally) so publicly by the government as an ID.

Very important note: the ID was the same for all, but the cultural experience would’ve been very different for many different contexts in Japan, e.g. people in jobs that have gender-based stereotyping, trans people who have to live with the social expectations of a man, e.g. AMAB.