I think I’m seeing an epidemic.
My view: When someone’s reporting a special moment, “ME TOO!” or “I’ve also . . . !” is a wrong answer. When people are reporting an epiphany, “Yup! Known it already!” (of different varieties) is a wrong answer. When someone is sharing how difficult it is to live with whatever they’re suffering, “Oh I know all about it” is not the answer. When someone says “I have the worst flu right now,” the answer isn’t “My sister has it worse.”
My reason: The moment is 100 % theirs. Yes, there is time they’re looking for someone who share experience to feel camaraderie. But it’s about 1/200th as often as people use it as an excuse to bring the spot light onto themselves.
So, what to do? My idea right now is to validate their feelings and how special or different they’re feeling. Validate the heck out of them and do nothing else. Just for that day.
I feel I’m not explaining this right, but right now the 4 am fire alarm and the concussion have left me struggling with words today.
“So what do you do for fun?” a very handsome man asks. I’m
lost at this question.
For instance, today I decided I wanted cake noodles so I made some.
“I make cake noodles.”
So I always said “I don’t make smart-ass comments to players.”
Now I have to say “I don’t make smart-ass comments to players except that one time.”
My head is down. My legs are absolutely burning. C’mon C’mon C’mon C’mon C’MONNN! Backchecking from deep in the offensive zone I’m the third one back chasing a 2-on-0. I’m catching up to my teammate.
I put my stick blade on her butt and PUSH! to transfer my momentum to her. Yell “NITRO!!!!!” after her and go for a change. My job here is done.
She completes the play and returns to the bench.
“Did you push me with your stick?”
“So you were gaining on me?”
“Why didn’t you get past me?”
“Cuz I’ve seen it done on TV.”
“Well, thanks! It helped a lot. … Next time, feel free to get past me.”
Well, I had to check that one off the bucket list, so…
24 hours left in my 32-hour work “day.”
Last time I let this happen to me, I said “OMG. Now I’ve learned my lesson.”.
I exclaim far more in text messages than in person.
Don’t get me started on winks.