Someone asked me a while ago “What are you most thankful?”
This is it: I was born into the level of confidence I had no business having if you ask those who think confidence is to be earned.
Through the various phases in my life of being bullied, ostracised for being a teacher’s pet, avoided for being “strong-headed,” marginalized for being a whistle blower. I never once believed I had to change. They could have but didn’t succeed in making me a push-over.
I was overweight (for the asian standards) and was not considered pretty at all as a child, but I never believed it would have any impact on events and outcomes of my life as intended.
I celebrate adversities as one always learns more from challenges than successes. In fact, the only thing one learns from success is how crucial previous challenges were to the success.
I view the process of mate search as me choosing someone instead of me being chosen. These things completely rid me of the pressure to contort and sacrifice to meet standards (that we think men set). It allowed me to have my own set of priorities.
I can’t wait to find a mate so that when I say shit like this, it doesn’t sound like a warning to young women and send them in the opposite direction.